Recommended Books
The following books are available from Amazon. Click on the book title link to be taken to the Amazon Website.
How to Protect Your Family from Bad-mouthing and Brainwashing by Dr Richard A Warshak
| About the book Divorce Poison Your ex-spouse is badmouthing you to your children, perhaps even trying to turn them against you. If you handle the situation ineffectively, you could lose your children's respect-or worse, lose contact with them. The conventional advice is to do nothing, but Dr. Richard Warshak is convinced that this approach is useless and only leaves parents feeling helpless. The damage to children can be considerable-particularly when warring parents enlist children as allies in the battle. "Divorce Poison" is the first book that offers specific advice to protect children from the results of their parents' animosity. It details how to distinguish different types of criticism, how and why parents manipulate their children, how to detect these maneuvers, and how these practices damage children. Most important, it offers parents powerful strategies to preserve and rebuild loving relationships with their children. About Dr Warshak Dr. Richard A. Warshak is a clinical, research, and consulting psychologist and a clinical professor at the University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center. An international authority on divorce and parental alienation, he has conducted extensive research with divorced families for years. |
Adult Children of Parental Alienation Syndrome Breaking the ties that bind by Amy J. L. Baker
| About the book Adult Children of Parental Alienation Syndrome Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) occurs when divorcing parents use children as pawns, trying to turn the child against the other parent. This book examines the impact of PAS on adults and offers strategies and hope for dealing with the long-term effects. Amazon Review This really is an essential read and companion to anybody who works in the family law system or sadly encounters Parental Alienation in their private lives. TCM Comment Please note that Parental Alienation is not yet recognised as a psychological syndrome yet in the UK or UK courts. That said, there is no doubt that some parents do seek to alienate their children from the other parent, and no doubt this book will be of interest to anyone interested in the subject. |
A Guide for Parents by Steve Biddulph
| About the book The Secrets of Happy Children This book -- a classic worldwide bestseller -- aims to let parents be themselves and children grow up happy, full of self-esteem and feeling loved. Steve Biddulph lets you into the mind of your child to show how the positive ways in which you relate to a child will have a strong effect on growing self esteem, responsibility, stable emotions and present and future happiness. He shows how negative language will affect children and explains why children may rebel and how you should deal with any discipline problem that should occur. You will find out how kids experience emotions such as anger, fear, apathy. Other issues are discussed such as fathering, ages and stages, stopping tantrums before they start, and curing shyness. The book is full of scenarios, familiar dialogues and case histories with cartoons. Amazon Review I have 3 boys, this book has helped me think about and change certain aspects of my parenting for the better. The so-called 'experts' will hate this book as it bypass's all the psycho-babble that we are all bombarded with these days from people with no children and straight from university. I have seen positive changes in my children because of the way I now relate to them thanks to this books clear and accessible advice. With the excellent layout, easy to refer to again and again. |
Searching for Values in a Competitive Age Richard Layard and Judy Dunn
| About the book A Good Childhood Every day the newspapers lament the problems facing our children – broken homes, pressures to eat and drink, the stress of exams. The same issues are discussed in every pub and at every dinner party. But is life really more difficult for children than it was, and if so why? And how can we make it better? This book, which is a result of a two year investigation by the Children’s Society and draws upon the work of the UK’s leading experts in many fields, explores the main stresses and influences to which every child is exposed – family, friends, youth culture, values, and schooling, and will make recommendations as to how we can improve the upbringing of our children. It tackles issues which affect every child, whatever their background, and questions and provides solutions to the belief that life has become so extraordinarily difficult for children in general. The experts make 30 specific recommendations, written not from the point of view of academics, but for the general reader – above all for parents and teachers. Richard Layard is Emeritus Professor of Economics at the London School of Economics, and author of the best-selling Happiness (Penguin, 2005). He was founder-director of the Centre for Economic Performance at the London School of Economics and now heads its programme on well-being. He is also a member of the House of Lords. Judy Dunn is Professor of Developmental Psychology at the Institute of Psychiatry, King's College London. Her research interests are in children's social, emotional and communicative development, studied in their families and with their friends. She is Chair of the Good Childhood Inquiry. |
Children Act Private Law Proceedings A Handbook His Honour Judge John Mitchell
| About the Handbook Children Act Private Law Proceedings This work has become an invaluable companion for all practitioners involved in private law proceedings under the Children Act 1989. It provides both a detailed, widely researched analysis of substantive law and a clear guide to the relevant procedure. The new edition has been thoroughly revised throughout and takes account of all recent case-law in respect of contact orders and shared residence orders and important procedural developments, such as the introduction of the Private Law Programme, and the joinder of children as parties to proceedings. The extensive text is supplemented by fully updated appendices containing essential statutory and other materials. Amazon Review Anyone involved regularly in Family Law as a practitioner, LIP or in any other capacity will find this book indispensable. |
by Randi Kreger | Amazon Review of Stop Walking on Eggshells For those of us who feel like we've been living in some weird plot of the X-files where every so often an alien presence takes over our loved one in unpredictable and often destructive ways this book might just be a godsend. If you have never lived with someone who has BPD characteristics I can imagine it would be impossible to understand just what it's like. They're brilliant, funny, warm and engaging one moment - and then without warning irrational, blisteringly angry, abusive and manipulative. The rage and abuse can last for several hours, sometimes days, and often through the night until morning. After a while the partner without BPD, or the non-BP as it is termed in this book, begins to question their own sense of perception and what is acceptable and normal. This book provides a lightpost back to reality. One previous review seems to consider this book as some sort of manual for leaving the relationship and providing convenient labels for justifying this action. I am convinced this reviewer must have read a different book. This book is emphatically not about providing labels but about understanding - understanding that the actions of the person with BP are driven by fear and pain, understanding that in order to be able to provide the framework where a healthy mutually supportive relationship can exist BOTH partners have to be healthy with healthy boundaries. This book is about helping the non-BP have the tools to maintain his or her own personhood and thereby ultimately benefit the relationship. A BP demands so much of their partner's time, resources and emotional energy. The awful aching emptiness within them, this need for reassurance, this desperate attempt for anything to fill this void and ease the pain and terror. It is easy to be sucked into this needy-child world and willingly give of yourself to the point of exhaustion and then after giving so much be utterly bewildered when this person you love suddenly, and for no apparent rational reason, spends the next 7 hours yelling at you with the most appalling verbal abuse, and when you try to (verbally) defend yourself against the onslaught you get punched, kicked, scratched and have objects wildly thrown at you. Sounds bizarre, but this happened to me at the mere suggestion I made that I was a little tired. I wish I had had this book on this and the countless other occasions where my remarks (innocent and otherwise) have sparked the fury. Reading this book you will be able understand why you have given and given and yet are still treated in the most appalling and abusive way and it also gives you much-needed advice on ways to avoid or reduce these irrational conflicts. Of course BPD is an extremely serious condition and the sufferers, if they admit it at all, need very intensive therapy and/or medication. This book is not some sort of self-help treatment guide. It is not our job to cure our loved ones of this awful condition. It is also not anyone's job to be perfect and, as this book emphasises, in any relationship we are 100% responsible for our own 50%. This book gives the non-BP back some self-respect and centre. It explains the difference between triggers and causes, so that whilst something you did or said may have triggered a rage it doesn't mean that you have caused it or that it excuses the consequent verbal or physical abuse. This book, by giving the non-BP some tools to maintain his or her sanity in the face of sometimes overwhelming opposition, may just be the very thing that keeps a relationship alive. These poor damaged souls are so needy, so empty, so vulnerable and so precious yet are also capable of the most aggressive, nasty, irrational and unloving behaviour - paradoxically the very sort of behaviour that drives away the love they most need. This book will help you understand the reasons for this and to maintain your own dignity in the face of the onslaught. There is some real hope contained in these pages. |
Understanding the Borderline Personality
| About the book I Hate You Don't Leave Me People with Borderline Personality Disorder experience such violent and frightening mood swings that they often fear for their sanity. They can be euphoric one moment, despairing and depressed the next. They show symptoms such as: a shaky sense of identity; sudden violent outbursts; oversensitivity to real or imagined rejection; brief, turbulent love affairs; frequent periods of intense depression; eating disorders, drug abuse, and other self-destructive tendencies; an irrational fear of abandonment and an inability to be alone. For years BPD was difficult to describe, diagnose, and treat. But now, for the first time, Dr. Jerold J. Kreisman and health writer Hal Straus offer much-needed professional advice, helping victims and their families to understand and cope with this troubling, shockingly widespread affliction. Amazon Review Someone recommended this book to me, however after reading all the reviews on Amazon, I thought it might be a bit out of date after all. Eventually I bought it because of the title, which says it all, and guess what...it is an absolute masterpiece. It refers to some famous people who suffered from the ilness and I remember myself reading Marilyn's biographies and I could identify myself with the way she felt. This book makes it all so clear and in a non-judgemental way, to me it looks like the author was ahead of his times as (ok may be apart from the references), the book itself touches subjects that even the most recent books don't and it is written in such an interesting way too. |
